A traditional Javanese wedding is a most colorful and memorable event. With fresh flowers carefully placed on carved wood decorations, the atmosphere represents very well a facet of the Indonesian traditions flourishing all over our country.

Normally the celebration lasts two days. The first day is similar to a shower, as is commonly known in the western hemisphere, and the second day is the marriage ceremony and the wedding celebrations. The future husband doesn´t normally attend the shower celebration which is reserved for the immediate family and very close friends. But there can be exceptions... Javanese people are very smooth and resilient.

The wedding ceremony usually begins at 9 in the morning and if the ceremony is of the Muslim faith, the vows take place in the bride´s parents´ home. Otherwise, the marriage can be in a church or in a government office if you prefer a civil marriage.

Afterwards, the music begins and the couple is invited to sing along with the musicians if live music is present. Cantik Javanese Dancer Guests can also sing and others are invited to sing along. So don´t be surprised by the wide selection of music since most professional musicians can play all styles such as Dangdut, Latin, pop, rock and roll and most top 40 tunes and supply song books.

Guests are oftentimes honored by the participation of a Bali or Dangdut dancer which is most appreciated by everyone.

Gamelan music is a well preserved tradition in Java and Bali. The gamelan is a percussion instrument made of bronze and each one has a particular sound and doesn´t follow the western rule of a fixed musical scale. Gamelan types can be identified as sarong, demung and peking. The gamelans are accompanied by a bamboo flute called a suling or seruling, metallophones called gender and a two-string violin known as rebab.  

Dangdut, on the other hand, is a more contemporary type of music. Modern instruments such as electric guitar, bass, mandolin, drum set and electric violin play along with traditional instrument such as the kendang, a drum which produces the dang and the dut on a 4/4 beat. Also a seruling tastefully comes in to fill in for the melody when the singer ends a musical phrase. Most of the time, Dangdut music is enhanced with eight beautiful dancers, women and men, smiling all the way through a song. Dangdut can take many forms such as rock-dangdut, pop-dangdut, reggae-dangdut, tango-dangdut, salsa-dangdut and frequently reminds the listener about Arabian, Latin and Indian influences.

Traditional food is served to the guests before they gradually leave while other people such as neighbors and co-workers come over to pay a small visit and enjoy the food and music.

The Flower Bath

Flower Bath The Flower Bath ceremony is held at the bride´s parents house. In this ceremony the parents and close relatives offer a flower shower to the bride as a symbol of purifying body and soul before the wedding that will take place the next day.

Step Over Ceremony

Also held on the day prior to the wedding day, the Step Over Ceremony takes place if the bride has an elder sister who hasn´t married yet. This ceremony is for appreciation to the elder sister so that the wedding can be held with her blessing.

The younger sister will also give a gift to the older one. This ceremony is quite moving: a mixture of joy for the future bride and sadness for the elder sister.


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